SOLVED
SO HERE WE GO...yesterday bought a 1999 bandit 600 parts bike for $80 bucks (mine is a 2003 bandit 1200), but the coils do have same part numbers.
Apparently my bike had some issues with the coils and they somehow damaged the new Autolite spark plugs. I took the only good (right) coil (for cyl 2&3) out of the parts bike, and also, somehow my (left) coil self-repaired itself and now shows 35k ohms instead of 25 k ohms. I put the bike together and it didn't solve the issues, so I pulled the plugs out and they were very black ... 1 and 3 were dry black (hot pipes), 2 and 4 were wet black (cold pipes). So just for the heck of it, I replaced the spark plugs again with a new NGK set I had laying around. BAM!!! Runs like a brand new bike ...after a year in the reaserch lots of money spent.
Long story short, coils get damaged over time, maybe they also damage new plugs. SO, replace bad coils and replace plugs again. Try running it again.
Funny thing is I had 3 sets of plugs (3*4=12 plugs total) and original set got toast probably during the initial coil failure, second (ngk) set didn't change anything (...so I took them out) because the coil was still bad, and the 3rd set (autolites) got damaged because I kept trying to run the bike with a coil (s) still bad. So when I got the coils fixed, and reinstalled the NGKs back, problem solved.
Thanks again for all your help. There is a guy on youtube that has been trying for years to figure why his bandit rans like crap. He did all the things I've done, and it's probably just the coils and plugs. )))
ALSO NOTE: if you are buying cheap $30 coils from e Ba y ... then, you have to take the original bandit boots and install them on to the new coil wires (don't use the e Ba y's boots as they create different amperage than the OEM bandit coils boots).